“My love, you’re worth it all.”
— Matthew 6:30, Luke 12:7, Psalm 139:13-14 (via worshipgifs)
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self care isnt always lush bath bombs and $20 face masks. sometimes, it’s going to bed at 8pm or letting go of a bad friend. its forgiving yourself for not meeting your impossible standards and understanding you are worth it, nonetheless. self care isnt always luxury, but a mean for survival.
December 17th - a rescue plan
Some good news, I’ve been talking to two developers now and got them working together, we just had a meeting with the guys behind an existing large (millions of users) site similar to Tumblr, with a vibrant and open-minded community, and more importantly, it has open-minded owners who believe in free speech. They think we can get something done here to rescue the whole community.
I’m not allowed to reveal the site name yet. I can tell you it’s mainstream, open to everyone, open-minded and welcoming. (It’s not WordPress or any site owned by Facebook or Twitter. It’s not Pillowfort, that’s in closed beta. It’s not Ello, that’s mainly for artists. It’s not kinkspace or fetlife, those are too specialist. It’s not jux, that seems to be closed. It’s not Soup, that seems still in development and too small.)
One of the reasons for delaying the announcement for next few days is they don’t want a “land grab” where people take the names of current popular Tumblr users over there (cyber squatting). So they are looking at ways for existing Tumblr users to keep the same names on the new site.
More info over the days to come.
The plan is, broadly:
1. By December 9th, announcement of the new site and how to secure your username there
2. By December 10th, an online tool for bloggers to copy their existing content to the new site automatically, with the same tags and captions.
3. Bloggers will need to copy their content across between December 10th and December 17th if they want to use the automatic tool.
4. My understanding is that after December 17th there will be no public access to any “flagged” posts on Tumblr, but the original poster will still be able to see the flagged post (for a short time at least). Therefore, the original poster may still be able to manually download a post to their own PC or phone, after December 17th, and manually upload it to the other site. But if you have lots of posts that will take a long time, it will be better to use the automatic tool before December 17th.
Please understand that these dates are approximate and may change for technical or other reasons.
There may be a few rough edges or not so perfect looking site design on the transfer tool. Everyone is doing their best. The main goal here is to help as many people as possible preserve access to their content, in the short space of time Tumblr has allowed us, and preserve as much as possible of the Tumblr community spirit somewhere new.
The new site will cater for photo, GIF, text and html posts. It will not offer video and audio posts, due to cost reasons - maybe in future, but for now you will need to preserve video and audio content yourself in some other place.
If your Tumblr blog has a mixture of original content and reblogs, or all reblogs, all of that can be copied over to the new site. Reblogs will become “your” original content if nobody else posted them yet, otherwise they will be shown as reblogs. The devs are looking at ways to preserve attribution of reblogs back to the original Tumblr poster, if that person also moves to the new site.
Important: your Likes cannot be copied from Tumblr to the new site. You will have to go find the same posts again on the new site, and like them afresh.
(Similarly, existing reblog comments, asks, messages and other user interaction on Tumblr cannot be copied to the new site - that’s just too much to do, in the short time available.)
If you want to preserve any of your existing Liked posts on Tumblr, you will need to either: (1) download the post to your own PC, or: (2A) reblog it now to your own Tumblr blog, and then (2B) use the automatic tool, before December 17th, to move your whole Tumblr blog across to the new site.
If you have Liked a lot of posts here on Tumblr, the gridllr.com webapp should be able to help you do steps 1 and 2A quickly, I mean download or reblog.
(Someone complained to me today about the appearance of Gridllr on a phone. It’s best to use Gridllr on a PC, Mac or Tablet with a large screen.)
If you have liked a post here on Tumblr and the original poster decides to delete it, or even to delete their entire blog, some time before December 17th, then that post will be permanently lost. So if you want to be sure to preserve any of your Liked posts, you should best download or reblog as soon as possible. If it’s reblogged to your own blog it is safe from deletion, at least for next few days.
Obviously, you will lose access, after December 17th, to all past posts you have liked, if Tumblr has flagged them as NSFW. Again, the steps (1), or (2A) and (2B) covered above will be the only way to hold on to these posts.
Count me in .. seems like a Great Plan !!!
Looking forward to december 18th !
Jack
Thank you for sharing this!
I am all for this! Sounds like an ambitious plan with a lot of work in the short time provided. I, for one, Appreciate the efforts you and others are making to keep this community together.
I hope it works and hope to see everyone in the Next Dimension!
I’ll give it a try!
It’s Sunday night. It’s been a long weekend. I can tell, when you get home, that your shoulders are heavy. They’re heavy with the burden of life and with the struggles that understandably accompany it. I’m sitting in the kitchen when you walk through our door; our eyes meet immediately after you close it behind you. You’re on the verge of crying and you’ve done your very best to hold it in until this moment.
“Darling…” you exhale. You can hardly express the words.
“My love…” I respond. Before you hear me finish, you’re in my arms. I sweep you up, hold you tightly - protecting you. Gently holding your precious soul. It’s been through so much recently. I’ve always known you as a strong, beautiful, independent woman; but I can tell in your eyes that tonight - this night - you don’t want to be independent. You want your husband. You want me. And so I gracefully and confidently take up your yoke.
I ask you if you want to end the day and you softly nod as you rest your head in my shoulder. You force yourself to leave my arms and make your way to our bedroom. I blow out the candles in the kitchen; I put the dishes in the sink and turn off the lights. Lock the door. Our children are already asleep.
I enter our darkened room to find you already under the covers. I hear you shift underneath them, reaching out, as if to silently call me to your side. I hurriedly get around and crawl into bed.
“I need you,” you tell me, “I need you to love me.”
My silent approach is more than enough of an answer for you. We face one another on our sides, as two mirrored souls. You wrap your legs around me and I softly place my forehead on yours. Our noses are brushing up against one another. We are naked, but more so, we are nude - in the truest of senses. Vulnerable. Defenseless. Our emotions visible in our moles and freckles and creases. We hold one another. I take you and I take your heart. I softly pray over us, that God can lead us through this troubled time. That He will look over us and our loved ones. That He will guide us through these troubling times. As I do, I can sense you softly melt into my arms, growing ever closer to me, as if inches were miles and you need to be one with me.
This is what marriage is. This is what love is. There is no agenda but our love, our support, our unity. Tonight, I am leading you to Him as you have been spent by the day’s events. Tonight, I am asking Him to lead me in loving you as deeply, wholly, and selflessly as I can - as I have done every night before. Even nights before we had met. It was not too long ago when you had done the same for me; held me; loved me; let me be utterly defenseless and nude in your presence. It’s why I married you and it’s why you married me.
This life will be cold at times, to be sure. But it will also always be warm in my arms. I will never leave you just as He never leaves our side. He will guide our marriage and we will listen to His call. His hand is ever present in how we love one another. And He is particularly present on nights such as this when it just seems too hard.
I asked Him for a woman to love and a woman to hold. A woman who would make me a better man. To this, He answered me with you. And in turn, I have cherished you every moment since. And I will cherish you forever more.
friendly reminders to
- Brush your teeth/floss
- Wash your face/hair
- Put on some lotion
- Take your medicine
- Drink some water
- Tell yourself something good about yourself
- Take a break when you need it
- Take a moment to breathe deeply and relax your muscles
- Eat some fruits and veggies
- Eat what makes you happy
- Don’t be so hard on yourself
- Remember that everything is going to be okay
i want to fall asleep to the sound of your voice. singing, sighing, telling me i’m worth it. telling me you’ll be there when i wake up. telling me there’s no place you’d rather be in than with me.
Cheap/Free/Easy Date Ideas
Go to a furniture store and pretend to shop for our future home
Sit on the dock and dip our feet in the river
Go skating at the rink
Eat ice cream in the park
Make a blanket fort at home
Drive out to the country side and star gaze
Look at dinosaur bones at the museum
Go to the observatory
Make a fire by the beach and roast marshmallows
Write our names on the rocks by the river
Make pizza from scratch together
Do each others makeup and nails
Bring a blanket and flashlight to the park and sit on the play ground and tell spooky stories